Our bodies are made of energy. Our cells, our atoms, our neutrons are all made of energy. We are energy. Energy is governed by the Laws of Physics. Therefore, we are also governed by the Laws of Physics. My favorite is “Like Attracts Like.” There are many ways to phrase this: “What you put out, you get back”, “Do unto Others”, “You get what you give.”

Our messages to the Universe are delivered through our emotions. If we feel scared about the rent, we may not pay the rent. If we are mad at the world for treating us unfairly, we may experience true injustice. If we are excited and happy about our future, we may bring in the perfect mate, job or house.

So why do we feel bad, afraid and mad if it draws more reasons to feel bad, afraid and mad? This is for me the ultimate question. I know when I am feeling frightened to the point of physical paralysis that I am just plain asking for more of the same. Yet, I feel powerless to change my message.

I have been working with several people on the Laws of Attraction. One of my clients said she had been feeling really positive and visualizing her perfect mate lying in bed beside her. She went out the other night to a club and she and her friends discussed in detail the great time they were going to have, yet she had a terrible night. She called nearly in tears, feeling betrayed by the Universe. “It did not work,” she wailed. I could not blame her for her sense of betrayal.

My friend has spent much of her life feeling as if she is a loser. She attracts others who think of themselves as losers and she hangs out where people who think of themselves as losers hang out. This is her attractor field.

Sometimes you have to change your surroundings and habits to encourage a higher result. If you are an alcoholic, then it is not advisable for you to continue to frequent the people and places you used to frequent when you drank. The same is true of money problems. If you constantly spend time with friends who are also having money problems and further you spend that time moaning about your finances, then you have just sent a whopper of a message to the Universe. “Send me more to moan about with my friends. I get off on complaining about being poor.” Like attracts like.

If you are working on putting out a high vibe, but you still end up in pain and fear, then perhaps it is the your momentum at work. If you slam on your brakes, your car does not instantly stop. It continues moving forward. The same is true of your emotions. Just because you spent a couple of days feeling high and good does not mean that all the pain you were feeling is not still at work. This is not as dire as it sounds because the Universe works at the speed of light. Ride out your pain, feel good anyway and you will have broken the hold your bad feelings have had over you.

Perhaps you are a stopper/starter. This is someone who feels good sometimes and then feels bad and then vacillates back and forth between the two over and over again. This is another case of trying to stop the car by stomping on the brakes and then the accelerator and then the brakes. It is likely that circumstances are dictating this person’s life rather than the other way around. Take charge of your life and your emotions.

The Buddhists put a lot of stock in discipline. I have always wondered about that whole wax on, wax off philosophy. Why do things just to strengthen your muscles . . . Then, of course, strengthened muscles are what our emotions are all about. Many of us feel that we are victims of our emotions. We hit one another in a fit of rage, but cannot stop hitting because we have no control over our anger. We draw in inappropriate mates and lovers because we think so little of ourselves. We live in constant poverty because we cannot stop feeling poor.

I have learned to stop the habit of thinking bad thoughts by stopping them in mid sentence. This is not easy for such a verbal person. I hate leaving things unfinished. It very nearly choked me in the beginning. I started out easy. I let myself finish a bad thought and then replaced it with a positive.

When someone cut me off in traffic, I responded by screaming at them something about license and cracker jack box. Then, I began to stop the thought as soon as I became aware of it. I was still scared and pissed and indignant that someone would have the nerve to violate my space and rights, but I stopped the thought. Finally, I forced myself to send them a silent blessing and not the middle finger kind of blessing I wanted to send. My ultimate goal is to send them a true heart felt blessing. Most certainly, I do feel better not feeding my fears and anger and the other guy is not forced to draw a gun on me, which is a definite positive.

I do not think we are meant to feel good in order to “get things”. I think we are meant to feel good because that is our natural state. We get things because feeling good creates a higher energy attractor field and the “good things” are in that particular energy vibration.

Many of us believe that good things make us feel good. However, I feel that as a result of feeling good, we bring in the “good things”. “Good things” are a result not a cause. When you confuse result and cause, you are no longer in control of your life and you are no longer governing your choices and the results that you bring into your life.

This brings us back to the original question: Why then if feeling good brings good, would we ever risk feeling bad? I think we feel bad because there is a certain amount of comfort in the familiarity of feeling bad. Feeling bad is a habit. After all, if you are an expert at feeling pain, then you must be getting something out of it.

I think some of us feel bad because hurting ourselves feels good. It is a bit like being in a fight and hitting yourself before the other guy gets you. You get to beat him to the beating. We somehow feel victorious. I suspect we do this because we are hurting so bad that hurting ourselves even more will expedite the bottoming out process we may need to stop hurting and start healing.

It is difficult to understand that pain can become our chosen “comfort level”. The unknown may be worse. Why feel good only to be let down? Why not stay with what works . . . This then is the crux of the situation.

If pain is a familiar habit and in its own twisted way comforting, and if the unknown may be worse and if doing something may not work anyway, then we are stuck. Maybe you feel bad because you are so terrified that you can feel nothing but fear. Perhaps that is why we need discipline. We must remember that like attracts like and if we can make that our mantra, then we can manage our pain, our thoughts, our emotions, our message to the Universe. Wax on, wax off.

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